The Bishops School Pune / The Millennium school Dubai/ Allahabad/ Pune /Dubai United Arab Emirates/ Some amusing posts- just my opinion /
Thursday, 28 March 2024
Good old Allahabad
Good Friday
Wednesday, 27 March 2024
VEDIKA
( Trying something different for a change - a piece of simple fiction)
Part one
Vedika was an orphan, barely twenty, but as ambitious as a hawk. Not a plain Jane, but not beautiful either. However, if you passed her on the street, you would probably give her a second look, because there was an earthly charm about her and oodles of personality. Although money was far from aplenty, she had the confidence of a honey badger and hence stood out in the crowd.
And when she sang informally, as she often did at parties, get-togethers, and whenever the opportunity presented itself, her voice danced like a gentle breeze, weaving tales of love and longing with every note.
Intelligent, with a fierce determination to succeed, she was a go-getter, who had decided as a young teen, that she would not endure the poverty and suffering she had seen her parents go through before they both tragically passed away- a month apart, from Covid.
She topped the final board exam in the government school in her town and was ready to take on the world. Her name in the newspapers did not come as a surprise, as she was known to be someone who navigated complexities effortlessly, her intellect illuminating paths others scarcely perceived.
College in the US had been on her mind, and she was intent on pursuing a degree in science and finally studying medicine – the exorbitant fees did not deter her. She filled in innumerable application forms, knocked on countless doors, applied for a multitude of scholarships, appealed on social media, and waited.
She kept saying to herself that things would somehow work out as they always had in the past. Then out of the blue, she received an unexpected call late one evening.
He called himself an Indian philanthropist from Delhi and said that her story had moved him. Then, after a brief conversation, which was just myriad questions strung together, he offered to sponsor her. She convinced herself that the few innuendos at the close were just her overactive imagination.
The first tranche of money was in her account a week later and she busied herself shopping for necessities and packing. Simultaneously a myriad of thoughts was plaguing her mind.
Would she like it there?
Would she make it there?
Isn’t four years a long time?
And then would she continue till it was eight?
Would the money suffice?
Would she manage to secure part-time employment?
Would she have the coveted Dr title before her name?
How often would she manage to come back to see her old and crippled grandmother – the only relative she had left in the world- only time would tell?
And at the back of her mind – What type of man was her benefactor? In reality, she knew nothing about him.
Part two
The flight was scary and exciting all at once, and she took umpteen selfies on her old mobile phone with its partially cracked screen- a hand-me-down from a school pal.
And then all at once she was in college – selecting courses, settling into the dormitory, making friends, sightseeing on weekends, attending classes, and visiting the library where she spent hours pouring over manuscripts, journals, and computers.
The first eight semesters flew by in the blink of an eye, and the studies began to get more serious. She was often exhausted at the end of the day, but she was a dynamite in a small package and slacking was for the weak.
Two years were over – she was doing fantastically well, and she missed home but there was very little time to pine.
Assignments began to pour in, and she busied herself in the laboratories, till late at night, conducting experiments along with classmates, investigating, researching, and meticulously following established protocols, while recording data with precision. This was all new and oh-so-exciting.
Collaborating with eager and highly intelligent fellow students from various corners of the globe, she analyzed results and identified trends. She also contributed to literature reviews, synthesizing current research to contextualize findings. Additionally, she presented progress papers at meetings, fostering constructive discussions and receiving feedback for further refinement.
With relentless dedication and an insatiable thirst for knowledge, she was ascending to the summit of academic achievement, consistently outshining her peers. Her single-minded & meticulous approach to learning, coupled with a passion for excellence, propelled her to the forefront of her classes, earning admiration and respect from professors and classmates alike. Her bubbly nature endeared her to all and becoming the ‘class representative’ was an added and welcome bonus.
So, this was what university was all about.
She would usually return to her room close to midnight, then rustle up a quick meal, devour the same, and crash into her bed. The intensity was, at times, a trifle overbearing and she would tear up, but a sound sleep would drive away all such emotions, and come morning, she would be raring to go once again.
She received one or two letters from her sponsor, but they were cold and impersonal. He acknowledged that she was doing well and no more. He asked her to send him photos of herself and her university and she obliged willingly, almost every month. He confirmed that the money for her fees would continue to come in tranches as agreed with the university.
Part three
Year three began on a sad note. A brief call from a neighbour in India reduced her to tears- her grandmother was no more. Wrapped in sorrow's embrace, she mourned her grandmother's passing, her heart heavy with loss. Memories flooded her mind, each cherished moment a bittersweet reminder of a love now gone. The only solace was in the echo of her grandmother's wisdom. Suddenly, she felt alone and extremely vulnerable.
And then an email from her sponsor, which for some unknown reason caused her to shudder. He was arriving at the end of the month and said he was looking forward to meeting her- and there was more ……..
She read the letter repeatedly - each word seemed to hold weight, causing her heart to race with apprehension. With each line, a sense of unease crept over her, causing her to breathe heavily.
‘Not able to concentrate on anything during the next few days’ was putting it mildly. Suddenly she was a bag of nerves. Anxiety clawed at her chest, its grip tightening with each passing moment, and sparking unease in every corner of her mind. There was no one to talk to and friends wouldn’t understand how defenseless and unprotected she felt.
……………………………she walked out of the hotel apartment after meeting him, feeling used, shattered, and hollow- the world suddenly felt cold & unfamiliar.
Trust shattered; scars unseen, etched into her soul forever. She wore a cloak of shame she didn't choose, and it was heavy – sadly, far too heavy for her fragile shoulders. She didn’t mention a word to anyone.
She didn’t make the journey from victim to survivor that we often read about.
She couldn't bear the shame.
They forced her door open when she didn’t respond the following morning and she lay motionless. It was over.
The college held a touching memorial a few days later. Her friends and a few professors were there in large numbers as she was popular and well-loved.
“Gone but not forgotten, a life stolen by vicious, cruel hands.
In your absence, our hearts ache with the pain of loss.
Rest peacefully, dear Vedika, your spirit forever cherished in our memories."
Unfortunately, not everyone gets saved. Not everyone survives the darkness.
Monday, 11 March 2024
Where are we headed to
Why is everyone so ‘EXCITED’ these days? And what about all the Praise and Rewards?
Necessary?
A tad excessive?
It’s how things are done these days maybe!
Has anyone else noticed this, or have I suddenly
metamorphosed into a dullard, who is incapable of any form of jazzed-up emotion
or spirited zeal?
When I look around me, I see that many people, irrespective
of age, size, nationality, colour, and religion, seem to be perpetually on the
brink of exploding with excitement, over the most trivial of matters. Their over-exuberance
and perkiness tend to exasperate me, to say the least.
They are bouncing off the walls like kangaroos on a
trampoline, and are often so hyped up, that they can power a small city with
their boundless energy.
It usually begins at home, where we have begun rewarding
children for things like eating their food, doing their homework, waking up in
time for school, being polite to family and friends, having a bath, not using
foul language, not messing up their room- so on and so forth!
Phrases I heard
when in school were ‘Study hard’, ‘Make sure you copy your homework’, ‘Be a
good boy today’, ‘See you look after your things’, ‘Check your test paper
before you hand it in’, and the like.
Today when the child is off to school it is, ‘Have a good
time’, ‘Check your test paper and ask the teacher to recheck if she gives you fewer
marks’, ‘If nothing much is going on, come home early and rest- just say you
are not feeling well! I somehow can't get my head around things like this.
Don’t get me
wrong, I’m all for praise and so-called positive parenting, but are we doing our
children a disservice? Will they next expect a prize, for merely getting
themselves out of bed and a pizza treat for sitting on the toilet?
They will have no experience of failure
because they’re being told all the time that everything, they do is
astoundingly brilliant. So, when they do something great, do our words of praise have no effect, because they’re
used to hearing it all the time?
Sadly, when these tiny tots go to school, the
over-the-top admiration and excitement continue. In the present day and age, kids are so accustomed to
phrases like: -
“ You’ve got it right”, “Super work indeed- I couldn’t have done it better”. “Nice
going- give me a high five !” That was first class work” and words like - Outstanding,
Sensational, Fantastic, and Superb, that when they do not hear them, they feel
the teacher does not like them any longer! I find that utterly ridiculous and
bordering on the absurd.
Even if they give
a very average answer to a straightforward question, the whole class is asked
to clap and applaud and the teacher prances over to exchange a personal
greeting- all in the name of encouragement and well-being.
Then there are
the stickers, certificates, artificial tattoos, praise boards, points for good behaviour,
mascots to take home, crowns and tiaras to wear for the day, and the list goes on.
Not sure where this will end, but it's certainly something that concerns me.
Simple admonishment
now seems taboo, and people get offended at the drop of a hat. We are mortified
if a teacher speaks to our ward in a strict tone and one hears phrases like ‘This
is insulting’, That was uncalled for, ‘My child is depressed and does not want
to return to class’
Seriously?
Don’t you think we need
to get the balance right once again?
A friend of mine told me how he walked into his regular
coffee shop early one morning and was the very first customer.
The new barista was beaming like a kid on Christmas
morning – except that this was a regular Friday!
He began with, “OMG- I have been waiting for my first
customer – You are going to love your latte! I just know it! He then high-fived
my friend and did a little dance, before skipping behind the counter, where he hummed
a tune and pranced about like a caffeinated squirrel on espresso while
preparing the coffee.
Now don’t get me wrong – the young man was probably just
trying to do a good job, more so because it was his first day, and this was his
first customer, but there is something undeniably absurd about being treated
like royalty for ordering a cup of coffee. We both agreed that the barista was
a bit over the top – after all, it was just a cup of coffee and not a cure for
world hunger!
You also hear stories about the workplace, and they are
even more hilarious. I have met people who would begin every workshop with ‘I
am so excited to be doing this session- Are we all not happy to be here’! I often wanted to shout out ‘NO’, but then,
better sense would prevail!
Over excitement or to put it more simply- the state of
being excessively stimulated, has become a pervasive aspect of modern life. It
has permeated various spheres of society from schools to colleges to the
workplace and personal relationships, and while excitement and enthusiasm are
both positive attributes when taken to extremes, they have a detrimental effect
on the physical, mental, and emotional well-being. This in turn often leads to
frustration, burnout, and fatigue – something all too common in our world
today. This constant overstimulation affects the immune system, sleep patterns,
and our general health.
In a culture that has come to believe that busyness is
equal to productivity and achievement, everyone is always ‘on the go’, and then
we wonder why so many adults and children are often anxious and unable to
relax.
This pressure to maintain a façade of ceaseless motivation
and achievement contributes to feelings of ineptitude and imposter syndrome.
You observe closely and you will see innumerably
individuals who seem compelled to constantly seek out new sources of excitement
and validation to measure up to some vague unrealistic standards. This pursuit
of validation erodes self-esteem and contributes to feelings of emptiness and
dissatisfaction with one's own life. Mood swings, irritability, depression, sluggishness,
and emotional instability follow.