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Thursday, 13 May 2021

Those were the days my friend

 

Today there was a longing - a very sudden urge

deep within me

To take a walk – a nostalgic walk

On an avenue, of the Railway quarters

In my hometown- Allahabad.

 

Instantly I was transported back home

And there I was – a young boy again

Revisiting his roots.

 

Those narrow, enchanting, tree lined avenues

Predominantly ‘neem’, ‘gulmohar’ and the occasional ‘pepul’

Where I played as a boy.

 

It was ‘121 Traffic Quarters- third avenue’

The address has a nice ring to it, even now.

The home where I was born and raised.

 

Those old Railway houses – Colour washed, once a year

 Double- storied, simple square blocks

with gardens at the side, front and back.

Where flowers bloomed & vegetables were grown

 And chickens were often reared.

They laid their eggs in the hedges around the house

And I went and collected them every morning

A chore I loved – often there were six!

 

There were dogs too and we had one

 some aggressive  ones that bit-

 others whose ferocious bark was sufficient to scare you away.

 

The hedges were low and stunted – if any at all

Usually bushy and green with the occasional bougainvillea

Chameleons and butterflies aplenty.

Barriers and walls were a rarity back then

If it was yours – it was mine too

The jamun, plumb and guava trees

tempted all and sundry- we picked and plucked at will.

We were shouted at occasionally

if caught in the act – but nothing serious or of any consequence

hence, we did it repeatedly& with impunity.

 

I vividly recall

Vegetable and fruit sellers with their carts

Shouting out the various prices while cutting through

the narrow lanes.

 Peanut vendors, ‘Fatty’ - the butcher, the old man with his Ice cream cart,

 ‘Bushy’, the baker, with bread, tasty patties and biscuits

In his tin box on the carrier of his bicycle – and the bell!

The ‘box man’ with trinkets and other knick-knacks for sale,

 ‘Kallu the kabari’ with his raucous laughter

Who knew everyone by name- he loved to gossip.

Not to forget ‘Smiler’, the toothy cloth merchant

With his bag of fancy material for Christmas dresses and shirts.

These were all regulars I can never forget.

 

All residents had household helpers who cooked and cleaned

Everyone was either ‘baba, baby, saheb or mem- saheb’

The older adults were ‘Bara- Saheb and Bara Mem-saheb’

Many stayed in small quarters at the back of the houses

 

 Everyone sat out in winter

Lunch in the shade of the moringa tree was so nice

Although I detested the curry with drumsticks !

 

 Eating peanuts and having tea at four!

It got chilly by five – and the adults went in to freshen up

For the evening – no TV back then – just chit- chatting!

Visitors dropped in unannounced

Simple friendly people and oh so many of us kids

Seemingly more boys than girls whose only ambition in life

Was to play!

 

The avenues were put to good use

by rickshaws pullers, cyclists, pedestrians

a few scooterists, motorcyclists and the rare car

Who took this short cut to the Civil Lines.

 

We however put it to greater use

  And played cricket, football, kings , seven tiles

And “gulli danda’’ as well

Oh, those endlessly long, fun filled afternoons

Where, caste, colour, creed or religion

Had no bearing.

The burning of the ‘holkar’, the playing of ‘Holi’

The Eid and Christmas celebrations

We enjoyed them all.

The avenue lights came on at dusk

Thinking back now – they were rather dim.

Many were covered by creepers

 that had crept up the long pole- they dimmed the lights at times

 

“I spy” rang out from various corners, in the late evening

And the shrieking and shouting continued till around nine

With us charging around in groups and having a blast

Before one knew it, it was eight or somewhere around that time

When the unwritten rule said- ‘get home’ for dinner.

Uncomplicated pastimes, kindred spirits, simple pleasures, great friendships

“Those were the days my friend”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Monday, 10 May 2021

Reflections by the pool

 

You peg away all your life
You amass all you can
You were born to do just that my friend
Or so thinks every man
You gallop faster by the day
You practice till you drop
You must keep up, with the racing pack
Lest they term you, a total flop
If you’re a man, you take a wife
And then a few kids beget
If you’re a young lass
You often marry in haste
Then live a life of regret
But life itself
Is such a merry mix
Of exuberance, love, and strife
Of pursuits, goals, enemies, and moles
And friends, ready to stab you with a knife
So, watch your step- watch where you go
It’s not all cherries and cream
There’s poison ivy
Venomous rattle snakes too
Not always a pleasant dream
That’s life my friend
It’s your time on earth
So, live it the best way you can
Face the ups and the downs– take the good with the bad
But always be the better man
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Reflections by the pool

 

You peg away all your life
You amass all you can
You were born to do just that my friend
Or so thinks every man
You gallop faster by the day
You practice till you drop
You must keep up, with the racing pack
Lest they term you, a total flop
If you’re a man, you take a wife
And then a few kids beget
If you’re a young lass
You often marry in haste
Then live a life of regret
But life itself
Is such a merry mix
Of exuberance, love, and strife
Of pursuits, goals, enemies, and moles
And friends, ready to stab you with a knife
So, watch your step- watch where you go
It’s not all cherries and cream
There’s poison ivy
Venomous rattle snakes too
Not always a pleasant dream
That’s life my friend
It’s your time on earth
So, live it the best way you can
Face the ups and the downs– take the good with the bad
But always be the better man
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Friday, 7 May 2021

WHO NEXT

 WHO NEXT?

Who next is an oft used phrase?
As a schoolteacher, house master, boarding superintendent , Headmaster and School Principal, I have frequently used this phrase while thinking to myself and at meetings. You see, as a Leader, if you want to ensure stability in any sphere, one must always think about ‘who next’. It’s a sort of succession planning.
Let me explain.
You see a dance, or a concert being presented by your pupils in school. There are some brilliant dancers and actors but unfortunately, they are all in the class that is passing out of school that year. Immediately you say to yourself ‘what happens next year or who next’. There is this worry that there will be no one to take over the baton.
You would have a fantastic Head boy or Head Girl – bubbly, intelligent and one who exhibited such great qualities of Leadership. ‘Who next’ would always crop up in some meeting or the other as the year was drawing to a close.
Every time I trained a debate team in Pune or Dubai there was always that ‘star speaker’. Confident, eloquent, a deep thinker, humourous, natural and a born orator, so to say. They had that innate ability to connect with any audience, with ease. I was confident that he or she would blow the opposition away and usually , they lived up to my expectations. However, a year or two later they were ready to pass out from school, and the question on my mind would always be, ‘who next’. Would we ever win as consistently again?
When brilliant, passionate, motivated teachers and leaders have left schools where I have been Headmaster or Principal it has always pained me, as they were loved by pupils and parents, did so much more than just teach, were the complete package and individuals who made a difference. Now what do we do, or ‘who next’, always cropped up. The initial thought often was, ‘will the results go down’? ‘Will parents be upset’?
However, my apprehensions and fears were always short lived, as someone or the other always stepped up and proved that they were as good, if not better at shouldering the task . There were the occasional, initial hiccups but soon everything was ‘hunky dory’.
I remember being interviewed for the Post of Principal in Dubai by a senior official. After clearing the interview, the person smiled and said, ‘you have big boots to fill’. Obviously the ‘who next’ scenario was playing out in her mind before the interview as well, and I don’t blame her.
The ‘who next syndrome’ is inevitable as that twinge of uncertainty will always prevail. However, the fears are more often than not, unfounded.
Now please don’t get me wrong – the ‘NEXT’ has, on a few occasions, NOT BEEN AS GOOD, and there has been a temporary setback as well.
However, if you take the law of averages into consideration, ‘who next’ is just a figment of one’s imagination and nothing much to worry about, as no one is indispensable.
SOMEONE ALWAYS STEPS UP - OFTEN LIKE A PHOENIX FROM THE SHADOWS AND TAKES THE REINS.
To put the record straight here is a disclaimer.
THIS IS A POST ABOUT EDUCATION AND LIFE.
However, if YOU make any connection between this post and POLITICS OR POLITICIANS – then you truly have an extremely fertile imagination.
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WHO NEXT

 WHO NEXT?

Who next is an oft used phrase?
As a schoolteacher, house master, boarding superintendent , Headmaster and School Principal, I have frequently used this phrase while thinking to myself and at meetings. You see, as a Leader, if you want to ensure stability in any sphere, one must always think about ‘who next’. It’s a sort of succession planning.
Let me explain.
You see a dance, or a concert being presented by your pupils in school. There are some brilliant dancers and actors but unfortunately, they are all in the class that is passing out of school that year. Immediately you say to yourself ‘what happens next year or who next’. There is this worry that there will be no one to take over the baton.
You would have a fantastic Head boy or Head Girl – bubbly, intelligent and one who exhibited such great qualities of Leadership. ‘Who next’ would always crop up in some meeting or the other as the year was drawing to a close.
Every time I trained a debate team in Pune or Dubai there was always that ‘star speaker’. Confident, eloquent, a deep thinker, humourous, natural and a born orator, so to say. They had that innate ability to connect with any audience, with ease. I was confident that he or she would blow the opposition away and usually , they lived up to my expectations. However, a year or two later they were ready to pass out from school, and the question on my mind would always be, ‘who next’. Would we ever win as consistently again?
When brilliant, passionate, motivated teachers and leaders have left schools where I have been Headmaster or Principal it has always pained me, as they were loved by pupils and parents, did so much more than just teach, were the complete package and individuals who made a difference. Now what do we do, or ‘who next’, always cropped up. The initial thought often was, ‘will the results go down’? ‘Will parents be upset’?
However, my apprehensions and fears were always short lived, as someone or the other always stepped up and proved that they were as good, if not better at shouldering the task . There were the occasional, initial hiccups but soon everything was ‘hunky dory’.
I remember being interviewed for the Post of Principal in Dubai by a senior official. After clearing the interview, the person smiled and said, ‘you have big boots to fill’. Obviously the ‘who next’ scenario was playing out in her mind before the interview as well, and I don’t blame her.
The ‘who next syndrome’ is inevitable as that twinge of uncertainty will always prevail. However, the fears are more often than not, unfounded.
Now please don’t get me wrong – the ‘NEXT’ has, on a few occasions, NOT BEEN AS GOOD, and there has been a temporary setback as well.
However, if you take the law of averages into consideration, ‘who next’ is just a figment of one’s imagination and nothing much to worry about, as no one is indispensable.
SOMEONE ALWAYS STEPS UP - OFTEN LIKE A PHOENIX FROM THE SHADOWS AND TAKES THE REINS.
To put the record straight here is a disclaimer.
THIS IS A POST ABOUT EDUCATION AND LIFE.
However, if YOU make any connection between this post and POLITICS OR POLITICIANS – then you truly have an extremely fertile imagination.
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Wednesday, 5 May 2021

Rest in peace

 


We have all probably used phrases and words such as these far too many times in the recent past – more than ever this year.
Deepest condolences
Sorry to hear about your loss
Remembering you in our prayers
Shocked and sad
Oh, this came as a shock
Gone too soon
Too young to die
He/ She will be dearly missed
Our condolences & prayers
I hope you are looking after yourself
I am here for you if you need to talk
Just a phone call away
I have lost a loved one so I know how you are feeling
We will keep in touch
Rest in Peace
Death and the resultant grief affects our spirit, body, mind & emotions in more ways than we imagine.
Further, it makes everything feel so very surreal as if reality is just a horrendous dream.
Everything becomes a blur as the idea of time vanishes. Days are measured by one day after they died, two days after they died until it gradually tapers off.
Let us all pray for this pandemic to end.
Enough is enough.