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Sunday, 13 June 2021

LOVE IS A MANY SPLENDOURED THING

 

Do you remember the day you fell in love?

The hour, the season, the place

For the first, third or fifth time?

On every occasion you thought to yourself

“This is the love of my life.’’

“Finally got it right”!

 

 

Every time you met each other

 – things just got better.

In a trice- no moil.

The unwavering promises, of enduring devotion

Tugged at your heart strings.

 You were the happiest person on the planet

And everything in the garden was rosy!

 

No special day was needed for a celebration,

For everyday was Christmas,

 Holi, Easter, or Eid, for that matter.

 

It showed in the fetching eyes- the lingering looks.

It was reflected in the gorgeous smile.

Wardrobes were suddenly spruced up

Appearances began to matter more than ever

Everything was convenient, secure, content, serene.

 

The irresistible connection was overpowering

The Euphoria- overwhelming.

The positives were in focus

The flaws overlooked.

Two beings, so caught up in love

In the excitement, the passion and the frenzy.

Nothing, and no one else mattered.

Two souls had entwined and become one

Now life was sheer bliss.

This was for eternity.

 

Then unexpectedly – unforeseen cracks

Made a revolting appearance.

Decidedly slowly, but extremely  surely

And were soon unfathomable trenches.

Shocking disbelief followed.

No one saw it coming

No one assumed it would.

 

Two worlds collided and crumbled.

Battle lines were drawn

The disappointment, the wrangling and the blame

The bitterness, the rage, the rancour

Took its toll.

Honest conversations became History

Forgiveness- no more a foregone conclusion

The furrows were dug too deep

Reconciliation – utterly impossible.

 

All that was left

Was for the tears to dry.

And the healing process to begin.

 

People outgrow people, don’t they?

“If it just didn’t open

It was certainly not your door”.

LOVE IS A MANY SPLENDOURED THING

 

Do you remember the day you fell in love?

The hour, the season, the place

For the first, third or fifth time?

On every occasion you thought to yourself

“This is the love of my life.’’

“Finally got it right”!

 

 

Every time you met each other

 – things just got better.

In a trice- no moil.

The unwavering promises, of enduring devotion

Tugged at your heart strings.

 You were the happiest person on the planet

And everything in the garden was rosy!

 

No special day was needed for a celebration,

For everyday was Christmas,

 Holi, Easter, or Eid, for that matter.

 

It showed in the fetching eyes- the lingering looks.

It was reflected in the gorgeous smile.

Wardrobes were suddenly spruced up

Appearances began to matter more than ever

Everything was convenient, secure, content, serene.

 

The irresistible connection was overpowering

The Euphoria- overwhelming.

The positives were in focus

The flaws overlooked.

Two beings, so caught up in love

In the excitement, the passion and the frenzy.

Nothing, and no one else mattered.

Two souls had entwined and become one

Now life was sheer bliss.

This was for eternity.

 

Then unexpectedly – unforeseen cracks

Made a revolting appearance.

Decidedly slowly, but extremely  surely

And were soon unfathomable trenches.

Shocking disbelief followed.

No one saw it coming

No one assumed it would.

 

Two worlds collided and crumbled.

Battle lines were drawn

The disappointment, the wrangling and the blame

The bitterness, the rage, the rancour

Took its toll.

Honest conversations became History

Forgiveness- no more a foregone conclusion

The furrows were dug too deep

Reconciliation – utterly impossible.

 

All that was left

Was for the tears to dry.

And the healing process to begin.

 

People outgrow people, don’t they?

“If it just didn’t open

It was certainly not your door”.

Monday, 7 June 2021

NDTV and the Vaccination fiasco

 

EXCERPTS FROM AN NDTV DEBATE THIS MORNING – I DO NOT TAKE CREDIT FOR THE FACTS.

 

The ‘My way or the Highway’ Government has now done a complete U turn and that is not surprising. It has happened repeatedly  in the past.

After abandoning responsibility entirely, and leaving the states to fend for themselves, the Centre has now said that ‘Vaccinations for all will be the responsibility of the Centre and the same will be free’. However, they are now blaming the states for the fiasco by saying that some Chief Ministers did not agree with the policy of the centre earlier on!

While the U turn is a welcome move – pray why the total confusion earlier on? What strength did the Government display by giving in to a few Chief Ministers- IF they did make unreasonable demands which is still being debated and denied by the opposition parties?

Why has there been so much suffering, hundreds and thousands of deaths and a complete breakdown of the Healthcare system, if the government was in control?

Why did the government drag their feet and be among the last countries to order vaccines? The order itself is still insufficient by a mile.

When everyone else placed orders for vaccines in early and mid-2020, whey did India wait till Jan- Feb 21? Most countries have their orders in place till 2023- 24! Why this inordinate delay?

Why did India export vaccines and vow to be ‘saviour of the poor’ when their own people were running from pillar to post to get vaccinated? They still are!

Has the supreme court finally stood up and said ‘Enough is enough ‘and forced the hand of the government?

Hope better sense has finally prevailed. It’s never too late to make amends.

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Meanwhile – lockdowns are easing all over the country and people are out shopping, partying & enjoying themselves – Masks, social distancing, and in fact the pandemic itself, have been unfortunately, forgotten, and common sense thrown to the wind. If that is not a recipe for a disaster – what is?

For what it’s worth, the Government is wisely, still trying to impose some restrictions on travel and gatherings etc, but the common man couldn’t care less.  They are being fined, lathi charged, arrested, locked up and beaten but that seems to have had little effect.

Then there are so many who are still against the vaccine which is surprising. Vaccine hesitancy is so strange. Vaccines are the only protection right now.

Many medical professionals have predicted a third wave, which promises to be as bad, if not worse than the first and second. The vengeance of the second wave was scary. We all know so many people that lost family and loved ones. Our WhatsApp messages carried sad news every other day in February, March, and April.  

Are we preparing for the third wave? Are we taking precautions?

NDTV and the Vaccination fiasco

 

EXCERPTS FROM AN NDTV DEBATE THIS MORNING – I DO NOT TAKE CREDIT FOR THE FACTS.

 

The ‘My way or the Highway’ Government has now done a complete U turn and that is not surprising. It has happened repeatedly  in the past.

After abandoning responsibility entirely, and leaving the states to fend for themselves, the Centre has now said that ‘Vaccinations for all will be the responsibility of the Centre and the same will be free’. However, they are now blaming the states for the fiasco by saying that some Chief Ministers did not agree with the policy of the centre earlier on!

While the U turn is a welcome move – pray why the total confusion earlier on? What strength did the Government display by giving in to a few Chief Ministers- IF they did make unreasonable demands which is still being debated and denied by the opposition parties?

Why has there been so much suffering, hundreds and thousands of deaths and a complete breakdown of the Healthcare system, if the government was in control?

Why did the government drag their feet and be among the last countries to order vaccines? The order itself is still insufficient by a mile.

When everyone else placed orders for vaccines in early and mid-2020, whey did India wait till Jan- Feb 21? Most countries have their orders in place till 2023- 24! Why this inordinate delay?

Why did India export vaccines and vow to be ‘saviour of the poor’ when their own people were running from pillar to post to get vaccinated? They still are!

Has the supreme court finally stood up and said ‘Enough is enough ‘and forced the hand of the government?

Hope better sense has finally prevailed. It’s never too late to make amends.

-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Meanwhile – lockdowns are easing all over the country and people are out shopping, partying & enjoying themselves – Masks, social distancing, and in fact the pandemic itself, have been unfortunately, forgotten, and common sense thrown to the wind. If that is not a recipe for a disaster – what is?

For what it’s worth, the Government is wisely, still trying to impose some restrictions on travel and gatherings etc, but the common man couldn’t care less.  They are being fined, lathi charged, arrested, locked up and beaten but that seems to have had little effect.

Then there are so many who are still against the vaccine which is surprising. Vaccine hesitancy is so strange. Vaccines are the only protection right now.

Many medical professionals have predicted a third wave, which promises to be as bad, if not worse than the first and second. The vengeance of the second wave was scary. We all know so many people that lost family and loved ones. Our WhatsApp messages carried sad news every other day in February, March, and April.  

Are we preparing for the third wave? Are we taking precautions?

On closing a bank account

 

Have you ever OPENED a bank account? Yes, I know that is a stupid question, but bear with me.

Have you ever CLOSED a bank account?

Now this is something all or many of you may or may not have had the necessity to do.

Well- I had decided to  transfer to a different bank, and I will not name and shame, but here goes.

First and foremost, something pretty stupid happened and although I am not proud of it, let me share a few details, for the benefit of the reader, as everyone is entitled to a laugh, especially during this horrid pandemic.

 I was so engrossed in the ‘closing account business’, and mighty exasperated with the bank who I had been trying to call, in vain, for three days, that I took a wrong turn, went into an underpass, came out in the middle of a busy market   and hence never got to the main branch, I was planning to visit. I felt like a dope for goofing up so badly.

Now, rather far from my original destination, and not desiring to get lost again, I decided to go to a smaller branch, in the Mall of the Emirates which, although in the opposite direction, was somewhere I was confident of getting to – there is only one straight road!

The MOE as it is referred to, is a very large mall, hence, on reaching the entrance, I switched on ‘Google maps’, so that I would not have to wander about like a lost sheep.

 You would probably have guessed it by now – I am dreadful with any sort of directions and often get lost. Lest I forget to mention - I always ensure that I click a photograph or two of the parking areas – there is a number and an alphabet on the columns. I once spent over forty-five minutes searching for my car close to midnight. When I did find it, it was on a different level altogether, and there were just a few cars left to leave! If you are not from the UAE, then please don’t laugh or mock- these malls & parking lots are humungous and have two or three identical looking levels.

 This multi-level shopping mall currently features more than 630 retail outlets, 7900 parking spaces, over 100 restaurants and cafés, 80 luxury stores and 250 flagship stores. It has a total gross leasable area of 255,489 square meters. Hence you can imagine the footfall, especially on weekends! And this is not the largest. The Dubai mall parking lot can accommodate 14,000 cars!

No, I am not a drifter or disoriented or any such thing – it’s just that map reading and me are not synonymous.

Anyway, I am digressing - I did ask a security guard for assistance but he was as clueless as I was. Google maps to the rescue, and in a few minutes, I was at the bank. I got myself a customer token- saw that there were just three people ahead of me, and felt chuffed. The tentative waiting time was just twenty minutes. Not sure how they came up with that calculation- but fine.

Anyway, it was soon my turn. Full credit to the young lady who was assisting me. She was professional, very helpful and efficient.

 As my online banking had given up on me ages ago, I had to use the phone banking in order to identify myself. She helped me to connect. That took about ten minutes. Then the man at the other end of the line asked me to answer ‘secret questions’ which I had chosen twenty years ago. I presume, except for my name, I got all the answers wrong the first-time round, and had to start all over again. By now I had thought things over and so I passed the test with flying colours. The question I probably flunked was, ‘Name your best friend’. Not sure who it was in 2001, when I opened the account! Nevertheless, after I gave him my passport and Emirates ID numbers, he was convinced it was me.

She then gave me two forms to fill in, to close the accounts but I had to clear the balance on my credit card first. While that should have been a breeze, it ended up being a tornado. The first machine, in the bank itself, refused to accept my Debit card while the other, a few meters away, would not let me enter the card number after eight digits. Shaking her head in utter disbelief she said ‘no problem’.

Back to the bank and I was advised to call the Call center from the phone on the desk. Thirty-five minutes later, I was still on hold being told that I was a ‘valued premier customer and they were happy to be of assistance’. I was also intimated that the call would be recorded for training purposes!    Thoroughly frustrated, I disconnected and made a call on my mobile, only to get through   on the first ring.

By now I was pretty discomfited and at the end of my tether, and when told that I would have to identify myself by answering secret questions, I nearly screamed into the phone. However, better sense prevailed, and I survived that part of the ordeal. I was then taken though Account details, interest accrued, money to be deducted towards Credit card payments and what have you etc. I was asked when I had last used the ATM, and how much I had withdrawn. Also, what amount had been last deposited in my account and what my official address was.    All this after I had already identified myself. Then came the signing of the forms I had filled in, and as expected, my signature only tallied after three attempts. Checking details in the form I had filled in came next. With my sixteen-digit account number followed by another ‘IBAN’ number, with umpteen digits and any number of zeros one after the other, I nearly went cross-eyed!

The lady saw that I was rather upset and pointing to the machine, offered me coffee. It is a beverage I do not drink, but I knew she was just trying to be kind, so I said ‘yes please’ while attempting a halfhearted smile. It embarrassed her no end when the machine did not work- It also displayed ‘no sugar and milk’!

Finally, after spending about two hours in the bank, and her finding some solutions, I walked out a free man, with the account still open! While I was struggling to close my account, about ten other customers came in, finished their work and walked out. Not sure if the planets had decided to gang up against me that day.

Yesterday morning the bank called me, to tell me that I had transferred my money out of their bank and that the balance was nil – this was against policy. They informed me that now I would not be able to use my debit and credit cards as they had been temporarily blocked.

When I told them that I wanted them permanently blocked and cancelled, they told me, very politely   to visit the branch.  If I wanted to start that process online, they would first have to verify if it was me, and for that I would have to answer a set of secret questions.

I nearly fainted.

On closing a bank account

 

Have you ever OPENED a bank account? Yes, I know that is a stupid question, but bear with me.

Have you ever CLOSED a bank account?

Now this is something all or many of you may or may not have had the necessity to do.

Well- I had decided to  transfer to a different bank, and I will not name and shame, but here goes.

First and foremost, something pretty stupid happened and although I am not proud of it, let me share a few details, for the benefit of the reader, as everyone is entitled to a laugh, especially during this horrid pandemic.

 I was so engrossed in the ‘closing account business’, and mighty exasperated with the bank who I had been trying to call, in vain, for three days, that I took a wrong turn, went into an underpass, came out in the middle of a busy market   and hence never got to the main branch, I was planning to visit. I felt like a dope for goofing up so badly.

Now, rather far from my original destination, and not desiring to get lost again, I decided to go to a smaller branch, in the Mall of the Emirates which, although in the opposite direction, was somewhere I was confident of getting to – there is only one straight road!

The MOE as it is referred to, is a very large mall, hence, on reaching the entrance, I switched on ‘Google maps’, so that I would not have to wander about like a lost sheep.

 You would probably have guessed it by now – I am dreadful with any sort of directions and often get lost. Lest I forget to mention - I always ensure that I click a photograph or two of the parking areas – there is a number and an alphabet on the columns. I once spent over forty-five minutes searching for my car close to midnight. When I did find it, it was on a different level altogether, and there were just a few cars left to leave! If you are not from the UAE, then please don’t laugh or mock- these malls & parking lots are humungous and have two or three identical looking levels.

 This multi-level shopping mall currently features more than 630 retail outlets, 7900 parking spaces, over 100 restaurants and cafés, 80 luxury stores and 250 flagship stores. It has a total gross leasable area of 255,489 square meters. Hence you can imagine the footfall, especially on weekends! And this is not the largest. The Dubai mall parking lot can accommodate 14,000 cars!

No, I am not a drifter or disoriented or any such thing – it’s just that map reading and me are not synonymous.

Anyway, I am digressing - I did ask a security guard for assistance but he was as clueless as I was. Google maps to the rescue, and in a few minutes, I was at the bank. I got myself a customer token- saw that there were just three people ahead of me, and felt chuffed. The tentative waiting time was just twenty minutes. Not sure how they came up with that calculation- but fine.

Anyway, it was soon my turn. Full credit to the young lady who was assisting me. She was professional, very helpful and efficient.

 As my online banking had given up on me ages ago, I had to use the phone banking in order to identify myself. She helped me to connect. That took about ten minutes. Then the man at the other end of the line asked me to answer ‘secret questions’ which I had chosen twenty years ago. I presume, except for my name, I got all the answers wrong the first-time round, and had to start all over again. By now I had thought things over and so I passed the test with flying colours. The question I probably flunked was, ‘Name your best friend’. Not sure who it was in 2001, when I opened the account! Nevertheless, after I gave him my passport and Emirates ID numbers, he was convinced it was me.

She then gave me two forms to fill in, to close the accounts but I had to clear the balance on my credit card first. While that should have been a breeze, it ended up being a tornado. The first machine, in the bank itself, refused to accept my Debit card while the other, a few meters away, would not let me enter the card number after eight digits. Shaking her head in utter disbelief she said ‘no problem’.

Back to the bank and I was advised to call the Call center from the phone on the desk. Thirty-five minutes later, I was still on hold being told that I was a ‘valued premier customer and they were happy to be of assistance’. I was also intimated that the call would be recorded for training purposes!    Thoroughly frustrated, I disconnected and made a call on my mobile, only to get through   on the first ring.

By now I was pretty discomfited and at the end of my tether, and when told that I would have to identify myself by answering secret questions, I nearly screamed into the phone. However, better sense prevailed, and I survived that part of the ordeal. I was then taken though Account details, interest accrued, money to be deducted towards Credit card payments and what have you etc. I was asked when I had last used the ATM, and how much I had withdrawn. Also, what amount had been last deposited in my account and what my official address was.    All this after I had already identified myself. Then came the signing of the forms I had filled in, and as expected, my signature only tallied after three attempts. Checking details in the form I had filled in came next. With my sixteen-digit account number followed by another ‘IBAN’ number, with umpteen digits and any number of zeros one after the other, I nearly went cross-eyed!

The lady saw that I was rather upset and pointing to the machine, offered me coffee. It is a beverage I do not drink, but I knew she was just trying to be kind, so I said ‘yes please’ while attempting a halfhearted smile. It embarrassed her no end when the machine did not work- It also displayed ‘no sugar and milk’!

Finally, after spending about two hours in the bank, and her finding some solutions, I walked out a free man, with the account still open! While I was struggling to close my account, about ten other customers came in, finished their work and walked out. Not sure if the planets had decided to gang up against me that day.

Yesterday morning the bank called me, to tell me that I had transferred my money out of their bank and that the balance was nil – this was against policy. They informed me that now I would not be able to use my debit and credit cards as they had been temporarily blocked.

When I told them that I wanted them permanently blocked and cancelled, they told me, very politely   to visit the branch.  If I wanted to start that process online, they would first have to verify if it was me, and for that I would have to answer a set of secret questions.

I nearly fainted.

Friday, 4 June 2021

CAROL SINGING IN ALLAHABAD

 


Have you ever been Carol singing? Have Carol singers ever visited your home?

If you were a resident of Allahabad in the 70’s, a teenager back then, could sing or at least hum along, clap in time, had a certain amount of rhythm, played the guitar, the bongos, or no instrument at all, then I am sure, if you were part of a church group, you probably went Carol singing. Even if you did none of the above – you were welcome to join in!

Carols for those who may not be fully aware , are songs of praise and joy!

For the uninitiated, Carol singing, or ‘carolling’ is the singing of happy Christmas songs, by groups of people going from door to door (at Christmas) with the object of raising money for their church or a charitable cause .

 

Singing of carols goes way back in time and has always been an enjoyable experience for so many people, all over the world.

 

A few weeks or so before Christmas, the various parish priests in Allahabad would usually remind their youth groups to get the ball moving. Not that anyone had forgotten! It was foremost in many minds. There were innumerable groups of Carol singers, and I was part of a few, over the years.

 

The announcement would be followed by evenings and weekends of practice, merrymaking, amusement, and frolicking. We would reach the church premises around six in the evening and the practices would continue in some room or hall till about nine. It was also an excuse for us teens to get out of the house, for girls and boys to meet, to have fun, share stories and jokes, exchange story books, pass ‘love notes’, let your hair down and do a little singing. Remember, before you judge- there were no phones back then into which you could whisper sweet nothings and chat, if you get what I mean. I played the guitar so Christmas and carol singing is something I really looked forward to.

Scooters and motorcycles were a rarity in those days, so we would cycle to and from church, often with a girl or boy friend on the carrier of handlebar! Tell me about it!

 

Allahabad is bitterly cold and bone chilling in winter, and the temperature usually plumets to five and six degrees by mid-December, but it feels much colder.

 

We customarily went carol singing for five evenings between the 18th and 24th of December. The evenings were scheduled to end by nine but often dragged on till well past midnight- not that anyone was complaining. For us it was a case of – the later, the more preferred by all.

If you were not dropped home when the night ended, you had to make your way back alone and let me tell you – that was scary, and I did have a few hair - raising and rather petrifying experiences!

 

Thermal wear, if you had it, cardigans, mufflers, coats, gloves, & balaclavas were a necessity – we had to really cover up to the maximum to beat the cold. Some of the girls wore cute red Santa caps and on a few occasions, we had a boy dress as Santa Claus with his customary bell which he would ring with gay abandon !

I remember us being given a small school bus to use, and about thirty of us would pile in- the more the merrier. There were so seat belts, and the seats were rather hard and uncomfortable in case you would like to know. It was just the driver and then us at the back- singing, hollering, screaming, banging the side of the bus and in general making quite a nuisance of ourselves & almost causing a bit of a riot! The poor driver tried to get us to behave- in vain. His complaints fell on deaf ears.

We would then visit colonies, stand-alone houses, bungalows, and the like. Some people knew we would be coming and prepared in advance , while for others we landed up unannounced.

At every stop we would jump out, as silently as possible – the intention being to surprise the people in their residences.

Often, we were welcomed inside enthusiastically by Christians and non-Christian alike. By mid-December, all homes were done up with beautiful Christmas trees, coloured lights, wreaths, bunches of holly, and all the different Christmas ornaments and knick- knacks, and the atmosphere was festive and high- spirited. The little crib was always the center of attraction. Some families were so very creative and original, and their cribs were breathtakingly beautiful. The house often smelt of paint!

Once inside, we rendered about six carols, were offered snacks like cake, kul- kuls, various types of fudge, sandwiches, sweets, rose cookies, juice and of course given  some money which we collected in a sealed, tin box.  When we were offered ginger wine, steaming hot tea, or coffee – wow – that was amazing. Most of the items were made at home and the generosity of the families we visited was heartwarming.

 

We spent more time at some homes than the others and often there was a little dancing as well to add to the enjoyment.

Surprisingly, we were all, always hungry and I sense the cold and the singing had something to do with it, hence any quantity of snacks we were offered, were always polished off. Many generous people would tell us to ‘Take what was left over’ and eat it in the bus. Kind souls indeed.

 

There were some families who would not open the door to let us in – usually older people whose house we would reach too late – they had probably already gone to bed. However, their dogs would be barking loud enough to wake the dead, so it left me wondering. At times we would see lights being furtively switched off.

On a few rare occasions, we were shouted at to ‘go away and not disturb’. On such occasions we would retort by screaming, making barking and mewing sounds, howling, and piling up flowerpots near their front door! We felt they deserved it for their rudeness! I now feel bad we were so naughty!

 

All in all, we had a marvelous time, did our bit for the church, and really felt Christmassy!

 

I must not forget to add that many a love affair blossomed during this time, and quite a few ‘carol singers’ ended up marrying each other! There were match makers among us too for your information!

 

Those were light- hearted, vibrant, playful times filled with mirth, mischief and merriment and they will always be a part of my life.