On being famous

 On being famous...

Once upon a time, being famous actually meant something. A person had to achieve something real—write a great book, discover a cure, climb a mountain, or lead a nation. Fame was a byproduct of excellence. Today? Fame is fickle, absurd, and often meaningless.

I think back to good old Allahabad, a city that once bred scholars, poets, and freedom fighters. Fame there was earned—by minds like Harivansh Rai Bachchan and Nehru, not by gimmicks. But even then, there were the other kinds—the self-proclaimed sadhus who "miraculously" produced gold coins from thin air, con men who promised hidden treasures to the gullible, and godmen who built empires off blind faith. Some of them have merely adapted to modern times, now selling spirituality online, building Instagram followings instead of ashrams.

And the madness isn’t just confined to religion. Look at today’s viral sensations—Dolly Chaiwala, whose hideous get-up and exaggerated antics have somehow made him famous, or Chandrika, the pav bhaji vendor who has turned street food into a circus act. Then there’s Lily Phillips, who pushes the limits of crassness just to stay relevant. What exactly are they famous for?

Compare this to true fame—the kind earned by legends like Sachin Tendulkar, who dedicated his life to mastering his craft, or M.S. Dhoni, who led with quiet determination and changed the face of Indian cricket. Amitabh Bachchan’s towering presence and relentless hard work made him the megastar he is, while Lata Mangeshkar’s divine voice, backed by years of discipline, cemented her place as the Nightingale of India. That was fame. Real fame. The kind that doesn’t fade with the next social media trend.

It makes me wonder: when did we start confusing attention with accomplishment? When did being loud, outrageous, or just plain ridiculous become enough to be celebrated? Back in the day, if you were famous, it was because you had actually done something remarkable. Now, it’s about being seen—no matter how absurd the reason.

And the worst part? Most of these so-called celebrities disappear as quickly as they arrive. The internet is full of fly-by-night influencers, scammers, and publicity seekers who rise like fireworks—only to burn out just as fast. 

Fame for the sake of fame is a hollow pursuit. At some point, the quest for recognition turns into a desperate act of absurdity. Maybe it’s time we stop chasing the spotlight and start focusing on what truly matters.

Work hard- save smart

 

Work hard- save smart

I’m not a financial expert, and I haven’t struck it rich—but over the years, life has taught me a few valuable lessons.

I often see young adults chasing instant wealth, hoping for overnight success, and believing they can bypass the hard work. Honestly, I smirk when I see it, but I don’t blame them. It’s easy to understand why.

Our parents believed in working hard, saving wisely, and thinking long-term. They understood the importance of showing up every day—without skipping work for frivolous reasons or making excuses to miss duty due to a minor ache. At times, you need to push through when things get tough at work and not give in to momentary discomfort. Today? That message feels outdated to many. The new generation wants instant gratification, expecting quick results without the patience for the long haul. Social media doesn’t help either. Everywhere you look, so-called financial experts claim they’ve found the secret to easy millions. Just click a few buttons, sit back, and watch your money grow. Tempting, right? But here’s the truth: most of those "experts" are better at selling dreams than building real wealth.

Yes, there are people today who make quick money—sometimes staggering amounts. But let’s be honest: those stories are the exception, not the rule. And what you don’t often hear about are the risks involved. Fast money is often fraught with danger. The same platforms that promise easy profits can wipe out entire fortunes overnight. I’ve seen people go from having more money than they ever imagined losing it all in the blink of an eye. Businesses collapse, fortunes vanish, and dreams shatter because people chased quick money without understanding the inherent risks.

Call me old-fashioned, but I believe in working hard and working smart. Anything worthwhile takes time—whether it’s building a career, running a business, or creating long-term wealth. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: simple, consistent investing from a young age works. Small, steady savings may seem boring, but they add up overtime.

I began working at a very young age, but it wasn’t until later in life that I realized the value of putting money aside. Being in the UAE for 24 years has helped me understand the power of financial discipline. It’s all about living simply—not trying to keep up with the Joneses and not splurging unnecessarily. The easy availability of credit cards and loans only makes things harder for those who lack self-control. It’s easy to fall into a cycle of spending beyond your means, but real financial security comes from knowing when to say no.

I won’t pretend to have all the answers, but I do know this: patience and discipline pay off. I’ve learned that true wealth isn’t just about how much you earn—it’s about how much you keep and how wisely you use it. I’ve done well for myself- being self-made is a satisfying thought, but I’ve also seen the rewards of living within my means and staying focused on long-term goals. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it.

 

Beyond the first miracle

 BEYOND THE FIRST MIRACLE 

I’m sure you’d agree—

Being born is a miracle.

It’s the first one we experience,

And maybe the only one we take for granted.

From the start, life begins to unfold its journey

Parents and family guide us,

Offering love, patience, and a steady hand.

At the same time, the world isn’t always so kind—

It tests us, goads us, and forces us to grow.

School teaches more than facts and figures.

It’s where we learn patience—

In the quiet hours when no one’s watching.

Discipline—through repetition and practice.

And wisdom—from those

Who give their time and heart to shape us.

For me, shaping young lives through education

Became more than just a job.

It became a purpose—

A responsibility to guide, to care, and to lead.

Through every high and low,

Home has been my anchor—

The place I return to when things get tough

Life, in the end, is a canvas.

Every choice leaves a mark,

And every act of kindness adds color.

Let’s try and paint rainbows!

Being born—that’s the first miracle.

But what comes after?

That’s up to you .

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The 5 am club

 I know it's the weekend but waking at 5 is what my body clock has been doing for decades. Have begun to quite enjoy the ' me time'

I wake early  , make my tea and often just sit and think. Yeah , a boring old man I am ,but here's something to ruminate over- when is the last time you intentionally made time for yourself? I try and do it intentionally on as regular basis as possible - it's therapeutic. 

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s so  easy to get caught up in the daily grind, often prioritizing work, responsibilities, and obligations over what truly matters—creating meaningful memories.

 But are we making sufficient worthwhile memories with the people who matter most?

 With our families, loved ones, colleagues, and even our pets, these moments are invaluable. These memories are what we carry with us when life becomes challenging, offering us comfort, connection, and a sense of fulfillment. Yes I talk to the cat and I find it quite normal. I've seen so many people talk to their pets - that's love and fun simultaneously!

Too often, we find ourselves distracted by the pressures of modern life—emails to answer, deadlines to meet, and the constant buzz of social media. In doing so, we may overlook the simple joys of spending time with those who truly matter.

 Whether it's a spontaneous family outing, an afternoon chat or walk  with a pet, or an honest conversation with a colleague, these moments contribute to the tapestry of a life well lived life.

But beyond others, are we truly living for ourselves? Self-care, personal growth, and chasing our passions are essential in creating memories that are meaningful. Am following one of my passions more intentionally than before - am writing.

I always entreat people to read, write ,paint, travel, speak, dance, hike,learn to play an instrument- do anything that fuels you and makes you feel good.

 Taking the time to enjoy life's small pleasures, be it through hobbies, adventures, or simply moments of reflection, is critical to ensuring we’re not just existing but living fully- and you don't have to prove it to anyone.

You can be the worst dancer, have an awful singing voice and yet enjoy doing both!

In the end, it’s not about the quantity of our experiences but the quality of the memories we create.

 Let’s take a step back, refocus, and invest time in making memories that will nourish our hearts and souls for years to come.

A tame house pet?

 Random silly thoughts.

Have you ever wished you were a cat? 

A tame house pet.?

You laze around all day 

You are fed well 

Everyone gives you plenty of

love and attention

They want to cuddle you 

And play with you

And kiss you 

And you put up your price

And act snooty 

And they still say ' how cute"!

Then you slip out into the garden

And they go crazy

Searching for you 

And it makes you feel special

Coz you know you have them

Eating out of the palm of your hand

Or paw or whatever !

Then they  rattle your bowl

Promising you treats.

And call your name in desperation

While you peep at them

From under a bush or a chair

And you say to yourself

' it serves them right'

While sniggering !

Then when you are finally fed up

Of sitting alone and getting bored

As it's warm outside 

You get up and casuslly saunter in

Without so much as a ' by your leave'

And they are thankful 

And all smiles

And they thank God that 

You didn't decide to run away.

Makes you feel

Oh so special.

Their generous hearts are overwhelmed 

And they decide to get you 

Pampered and spruced up

So an appointment is booked

At a fancy pet spa

Costlier and sillier 

than the one for humans 

You come out feeling 

Bathed and bruised

brushed and dried 

Drained and stressed 

beyond measure

And smelling like an

Overpriced  powder puff

If only they knew

How much you detested this 

Utter nonsensical humbug 

You get home

And they are all cooing and smiling

And clicking pics

On their silly phones

While calling your name

Expecting you to pose.

Stupid humans for sure.

They ought to get 

Their act in order

 

All you want to do however 

Is rush to your litter box

And let it all out

It's been two hours of torture

Have they forgotten ?

But they are determined 

To shower you with more affection 

And the madness continues unabated

Till you hiss and 

Pretend to be annoyed

Tail waving and all

It's fun to see them scared! 

Finally they back off

While you make it to 

The litter box.

Then relieved

You tuck in 

And  go to sleep once again.

In a minute 

You're in dreamland 

It's a cat's life after all 

And humans should know

That cats rule.

Valentine's day is here again

 

The Valentine’s Day Hustle: Romance or Rip-Off

Growing up in Allahabad as a teen, I never heard of Valentine’s Day. Love, in those days, was a hushed affair—stolen glances, taking a girl out on your cycle and giving her ‘pani puri’, exchanged books, and the occasional brave soul daring to write a letter (only to have it intercepted by a nosy sibling). And yet today, February 14th has turned into an unstoppable carnival of grand gestures, red roses, and quite a few empty wallets- quite a circus indeed.

Some say it all began with the Roman festival of Lupercalia, later Christianized and linked to St. Valentine. Others insist Hallmark engineered the whole thing in an attempt to fleece people. Either way, the numbers are staggering—$25.9 billion spent globally in 2023, with over 145 million greeting cards exchanged. In India, the market now rakes in over ₹1,000 crore, proving that love is indeed a busy & booming business.

But let’s be honest, this day is becoming more stressful than romantic. Many sane men have started dreading it. It’s no longer about love, but about big spending—fancy gifts, overpriced dinners, and elaborate surprises. Forget at your peril! Even married men who should know better get trapped. And let’s not forget the worried dads, anxiously wondering what their daughters are up to. It’s also a day of proposals and promises and ironically heartbreaks too.

Beauty parlours do a roaring business as women rush for last-minute makeovers. And RED is everywhere —dresses, cards, hearts, roses, balloons, desserts, even special Valentine’s Day thalis!

And who exactly is celebrating? How young is too young, and how old is too old? Today, school kids exchange heart-shaped notes, teenagers navigate their first awkward dates, and even 80-year-olds hold hands at fancy restaurants. At what point do we retire from this festival? No one seems to know.

I joined the merry bandwagon for a few years, but the enthusiasm has waned with age – and I am not 80 yet!

Meanwhile, singles without dates either throw "lonely hearts" parties or just sit at home feeling miserable for their pathetic lonely lives. Some men form “bro squads,” while women have their own “Galentine’s” get-togethers.

One wonders—what’s next? National Proposal Day? Mandatory Date Night? The marketing machine never sleeps!

 

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The Billiards room chronicles

 Behind the Swing Doors: The Billiards Room Chronicles

I spent 20 years at The Bishop’s School, Pune (1981–2001), and among the many pastimes that kept us occupied, billiards was a special one. Bishops was one of the rare schools to have a proper billiards table—old but well-maintained. We considered ourselves lucky to have it, though the room itself had an eerie charm, especially at night.

Having been skilled at carrom, I took to billiards naturally, much like a duck to water—or rather, a cue ball to a pocket. Many of the senior teachers were seasoned players, and I picked up the nuances of the game from them. Names like Max Fletcher, Denzil Innis, William Daniell , Rodney Barrow, Kline Aitkins, Allen Seymour, Michael Gomes, and Eugene Pope come to mind.

Getting a game was tough, especially between 4 to 7 PM—the prime-time rush. The moment the final bell rang, some masters who had strategically waited in the room during the last period would take the first shot before anyone else could even step in! We were crazy about the game, and heated debates over tactics, shots, and rules were a daily affair. Arguments over the validity of a cushion shot or the perfect angle of a bank shot could get intense.

Saturdays and Sundays were prime time. If our wives ever wanted to find us, they knew exactly where to look. Games started as early as 9 AM and carried on throughout the day. Some masters grew so attached to their favorite cues that they started taking them home—presumably to “protect” them from others. That was highly annoying, especially when you reached for a cue only to find it missing!

Most of the rules were followed—no eating, no drinking, no damaging the cloth—but a few artistic liberties were taken with smoking. Some masters and players would casually take a puff even while playing, much to the amusement of others as the smoke drifted into their eyes mid-shot.

I often practiced late in the evening—either with someone to play against or alone. The silence of the room, the dim lighting, and the occasional creak of the swing doors made it feel eerie, especially on weekends. Some swore they felt someone watching from the large windows!

Even the Headmaster, Mr. Ringrow, would occasionally walk in and take a few shots, as would Mr. Roberts. On a few occasions, I invited my relative, Joey Fernandes, a true master of the game and a champion in his own right. Watching him play was an education—I picked up invaluable tips from him, and my game improved significantly.

Even the Master’s on duty ( MOD)  couldn’t resist. They’d slip in for a quick game, pretending to be “observing” if anyone checked. Senior boys often sneaked into the room just to watch the masters in action, soaking in the skill and strategy. On some nights, games stretched as late as 10 PM, with only the dim lights and the occasional creaking of the swing doors keeping us company.

After much persuasion, we finally convinced Mr. Roberts to re-cloth the table, possibly using funds from the fete raffle. The irony? Once it was in pristine condition, interest waned, and the room fell into quiet neglect—perhaps left to the spirits that always seemed to be watching from the windows.

William Daniell 

Alan Seymour 

Joseph Fernandes 

Audrey Fernandes 

Neville Darukhanawalla 

Christine Barrow Weltzien 

Jean Roberts 

Ryan Innis 

The Bishop's School, Pune 

The Bishop's School Alumni 

The Bishop's School Alumni Association 

The Bishop's School, Camp, Pune