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Friday, 21 May 2021

Let us all be thankful

 

LET US ALL BE THANKFUL

 

We should feel blessed that we woke this morning

That we could look up at the rising sun

That we could stand, walk, and run

That we are alive.

 

We should feel blessed this morning

That we have family, friends & colleagues

Shelter, food, and drink

Above all, a purpose to live

 

Very often we take life for granted

And assume that all will be fine

Just because, right now it is

But life is so unpredictable

 

Let’s take a moment to be thankful

Just a few minutes will do

Thankful for the graces we have received

We may not be free from flaws and defects

But we are vibrant beings

And we are ALIVE!

 

 

 

Let us all be thankful

 

LET US ALL BE THANKFUL

 

We should feel blessed that we woke this morning

That we could look up at the rising sun

That we could stand, walk, and run

That we are alive.

 

We should feel blessed this morning

That we have family, friends & colleagues

Shelter, food, and drink

Above all, a purpose to live

 

Very often we take life for granted

And assume that all will be fine

Just because, right now it is

But life is so unpredictable

 

Let’s take a moment to be thankful

Just a few minutes will do

Thankful for the graces we have received

We may not be free from flaws and defects

But we are vibrant beings

And we are ALIVE!

 

 

 

Wednesday, 19 May 2021

Grandparents are fun

 

They say that nothing prepares you for the day you become a parent – it is just an amazing, life changing experience. Then the kid or kids grow up, find a partner, take wing, and fly the nest.

 

However, that is not what this story is about. My wife and I are now proud, doting grandparents.

This happened a little over two months ago, and if being a parent is amazing, then being a grandparent is surreal & simply mesmerizing!

 

‘Evana’, our little bundle of joy, (God bless her) entered our world on March 14, while ‘Covid’, literally raged all round her! 

 

Growing up, my grandfather spoiled me rotten whenever he got the chance, and over the years, I have seen innumerable grandparents indulge & spoil their grandkids and not feel guilty about doing so. I would look at them in horror and complete disbelief & vowed that would never happen when my time came.

 

Well - It did, and I have to say, we have ‘sort of’ joined the bandwagon.

 

 No excuses. I know it should not have happened and all that, but it did and by the way things are progressing, it will continue for some time. To say we are both smitten would be a gross understatement.

Spoiling their grandchildren is the prerogative of grandparents and no one will ever be able to change that.  In one fell swoop, all our vows to be firm, yet loving grandparents were discarded, as we gazed, smiled, and made goo- goo eyes at the ‘miniature doll.’  

 

Can you help it when a bundle of joy is placed before you, swaddled in a tiny pink robe with booties and a bonnet to match?

She is cute, cuddly, angelic, and simply adorable. I was waiting for someone to say she looked like me, but no one did. I did broach the topic in a rather matter of fact tone, but there were no takers. Never one to throw in the towel so easily, I will try again, sometime soon.

 

Now, I do not want to go over the top with words of praise, because I know she is just a normal baby, but like all parents and grandparents, we are already seeing signs of genius in her. Will she be a great cook like her mum, a basketball player like her dad, a musician like me or a teacher like her grand mum?

 This is just conjecture - My mother saw genius in me too and was off by miles!

 

My daughter and son in law are the modern age parents so they have read books, watched videos & done their research on how best to bring up kids. They are already well entrenched into the circus act of parenting, while balancing priorities, juggling responsibilities and quickly flipping between the needs of Evana, other family members and themselves. It appears that as parents they will be consistent, devoted, firm and loving.

For our part, I am determined that my wife and I will not interfere too much either, but when we visit, soft music, dim lights and me creeping around on tip toe because baby is sleeping is not my ideal evening! I am encouraging them to lighten up.

 

Now you are not going to believe the next part, but it is true. I have carried her just once. I carried my daughters a few minutes after they were born but I guess I am out of touch, after all these years, and feel a trifle nervous doing so right now, what with “Daddy- hold her back properly, please support her neck and put a bib on your shoulder”.

 I have decided to wait for a few weeks.

 

However, we have already celebrated two birthdays on the 14thof April and May, cut cakes bought gifts and done a bit of a jig!

 I guess that is why it is said that grandparents need any excuse to spoil their grandkids.

I could be slightly wrong, but she already has clothes for at least six months and books to read till she is about four. 

Being a grandparent is truly a blessing.

 

There are no words to describe the happiness in holding your baby’s baby.”

Grandparents are fun

 

They say that nothing prepares you for the day you become a parent – it is just an amazing, life changing experience. Then the kid or kids grow up, find a partner, take wing, and fly the nest.

 

However, that is not what this story is about. My wife and I are now proud, doting grandparents.

This happened a little over two months ago, and if being a parent is amazing, then being a grandparent is surreal & simply mesmerizing!

 

‘Evana’, our little bundle of joy, (God bless her) entered our world on March 14, while ‘Covid’, literally raged all round her! 

 

Growing up, my grandfather spoiled me rotten whenever he got the chance, and over the years, I have seen innumerable grandparents indulge & spoil their grandkids and not feel guilty about doing so. I would look at them in horror and complete disbelief & vowed that would never happen when my time came.

 

Well - It did, and I have to say, we have ‘sort of’ joined the bandwagon.

 

 No excuses. I know it should not have happened and all that, but it did and by the way things are progressing, it will continue for some time. To say we are both smitten would be a gross understatement.

Spoiling their grandchildren is the prerogative of grandparents and no one will ever be able to change that.  In one fell swoop, all our vows to be firm, yet loving grandparents were discarded, as we gazed, smiled, and made goo- goo eyes at the ‘miniature doll.’  

 

Can you help it when a bundle of joy is placed before you, swaddled in a tiny pink robe with booties and a bonnet to match?

She is cute, cuddly, angelic, and simply adorable. I was waiting for someone to say she looked like me, but no one did. I did broach the topic in a rather matter of fact tone, but there were no takers. Never one to throw in the towel so easily, I will try again, sometime soon.

 

Now, I do not want to go over the top with words of praise, because I know she is just a normal baby, but like all parents and grandparents, we are already seeing signs of genius in her. Will she be a great cook like her mum, a basketball player like her dad, a musician like me or a teacher like her grand mum?

 This is just conjecture - My mother saw genius in me too and was off by miles!

 

My daughter and son in law are the modern age parents so they have read books, watched videos & done their research on how best to bring up kids. They are already well entrenched into the circus act of parenting, while balancing priorities, juggling responsibilities and quickly flipping between the needs of Evana, other family members and themselves. It appears that as parents they will be consistent, devoted, firm and loving.

For our part, I am determined that my wife and I will not interfere too much either, but when we visit, soft music, dim lights and me creeping around on tip toe because baby is sleeping is not my ideal evening! I am encouraging them to lighten up.

 

Now you are not going to believe the next part, but it is true. I have carried her just once. I carried my daughters a few minutes after they were born but I guess I am out of touch, after all these years, and feel a trifle nervous doing so right now, what with “Daddy- hold her back properly, please support her neck and put a bib on your shoulder”.

 I have decided to wait for a few weeks.

 

However, we have already celebrated two birthdays on the 14th of April and May, cut cakes bought gifts and done a bit of a jig!

 I guess that is why it is said that grandparents need any excuse to spoil their grandkids.

I could be slightly wrong, but she already has clothes for at least six months and books to read till she is about four. 

Being a grandparent is truly a blessing.

 

There are no words to describe the happiness in holding your baby’s baby.”

Monday, 17 May 2021

The good old DOOLIE

 I went to the fridge last evening and as I opened it, it got me thinking. I wonder if I am alone, or do any of you have these idiotic thoughts too.

Whatever the size of your fridge, it is never big enough and always seems packed to capacity.
There is always ice in the ice tray. However, when there is a get together, that ice tray is more often than not, empty. I cannot seem to fathom this out, as no one at home has anything with ice in it!

What do vegetarians keep in the freezer compartment? Often wondered about this too.
I often see limes, small chocolates and even medicines in the egg tray.
If there are too many things on the topmost shelf of a large fridge, the lower shelves look dark
The bulbs – oh those bulbs which fuse so easily

Have you ever opened your fridge to put something in – then the cat jumps in – then you close the fridge and cannot find the cat – then you realize it may be in the fridge- you go and check – and sure, it is! (Please tell me that this has happened with someone) This then called for a complete emptying and cleaning.

Here is something else.

Do any of you even remember how families managed before Refrigerators came into existence?
We had an item of furniture at home called a Dooley. Have you heard of the word or seen / owned one? Maybe your parents did- so you can ask them to enlighten you !

“Most families in the 60’s and 70’s had a ‘dooley’ or meat safe & it was a compulsory piece of furniture in many Indian homes. They were wooden storage cupboards with wire mesh on all four sides. Cooked food, milk, and vegetables was usually stored in them to keep fresh overnight. The ‘Meat Safe was also quite necessary to protect the food from cats, mice, and insects as well. In order to deter ants from crawling up and attacking the food, the four legs of the Meat Safe were placed in four small containers of water. Another name for the meat safe was ‘DOOLEY’

As for cold water , we had the 'surahi' - the earthen clay pot which kept the water cool - it tasted good too .

The good old DOOLIE

 I went to the fridge last evening and as I opened it, it got me thinking. I wonder if I am alone, or do any of you have these idiotic thoughts too.

Whatever the size of your fridge, it is never big enough and always seems packed to capacity.
There is always ice in the ice tray. However, when there is a get together, that ice tray is more often than not, empty. I cannot seem to fathom this out, as no one at home has anything with ice in it!

What do vegetarians keep in the freezer compartment? Often wondered about this too.
I often see limes, small chocolates and even medicines in the egg tray.
If there are too many things on the topmost shelf of a large fridge, the lower shelves look dark
The bulbs – oh those bulbs which fuse so easily

Have you ever opened your fridge to put something in – then the cat jumps in – then you close the fridge and cannot find the cat – then you realize it may be in the fridge- you go and check – and sure, it is! (Please tell me that this has happened with someone) This then called for a complete emptying and cleaning.

Here is something else.

Do any of you even remember how families managed before Refrigerators came into existence?
We had an item of furniture at home called a Dooley. Have you heard of the word or seen / owned one? Maybe your parents did- so you can ask them to enlighten you !

“Most families in the 60’s and 70’s had a ‘dooley’ or meat safe & it was a compulsory piece of furniture in many Indian homes. They were wooden storage cupboards with wire mesh on all four sides. Cooked food, milk, and vegetables was usually stored in them to keep fresh overnight. The ‘Meat Safe was also quite necessary to protect the food from cats, mice, and insects as well. In order to deter ants from crawling up and attacking the food, the four legs of the Meat Safe were placed in four small containers of water. Another name for the meat safe was ‘DOOLEY’

As for cold water , we had the 'surahi' - the earthen clay pot which kept the water cool - it tasted good too .

Thursday, 13 May 2021

Those were the days my friend

 

Today there was a longing - a very sudden urge

deep within me

To take a walk – a nostalgic walk

On an avenue, of the Railway quarters

In my hometown- Allahabad.

 

Instantly I was transported back home

And there I was – a young boy again

Revisiting his roots.

 

Those narrow, enchanting, tree lined avenues

Predominantly ‘neem’, ‘gulmohar’ and the occasional ‘pepul’

Where I played as a boy.

 

It was ‘121 Traffic Quarters- third avenue’

The address has a nice ring to it, even now.

The home where I was born and raised.

 

Those old Railway houses – Colour washed, once a year

 Double- storied, simple square blocks

with gardens at the side, front and back.

Where flowers bloomed & vegetables were grown

 And chickens were often reared.

They laid their eggs in the hedges around the house

And I went and collected them every morning

A chore I loved – often there were six!

 

There were dogs too and we had one

 some aggressive  ones that bit-

 others whose ferocious bark was sufficient to scare you away.

 

The hedges were low and stunted – if any at all

Usually bushy and green with the occasional bougainvillea

Chameleons and butterflies aplenty.

Barriers and walls were a rarity back then

If it was yours – it was mine too

The jamun, plumb and guava trees

tempted all and sundry- we picked and plucked at will.

We were shouted at occasionally

if caught in the act – but nothing serious or of any consequence

hence, we did it repeatedly& with impunity.

 

I vividly recall

Vegetable and fruit sellers with their carts

Shouting out the various prices while cutting through

the narrow lanes.

 Peanut vendors, ‘Fatty’ - the butcher, the old man with his Ice cream cart,

 ‘Bushy’, the baker, with bread, tasty patties and biscuits

In his tin box on the carrier of his bicycle – and the bell!

The ‘box man’ with trinkets and other knick-knacks for sale,

 ‘Kallu the kabari’ with his raucous laughter

Who knew everyone by name- he loved to gossip.

Not to forget ‘Smiler’, the toothy cloth merchant

With his bag of fancy material for Christmas dresses and shirts.

These were all regulars I can never forget.

 

All residents had household helpers who cooked and cleaned

Everyone was either ‘baba, baby, saheb or mem- saheb’

The older adults were ‘Bara- Saheb and Bara Mem-saheb’

Many stayed in small quarters at the back of the houses

 

 Everyone sat out in winter

Lunch in the shade of the moringa tree was so nice

Although I detested the curry with drumsticks !

 

 Eating peanuts and having tea at four!

It got chilly by five – and the adults went in to freshen up

For the evening – no TV back then – just chit- chatting!

Visitors dropped in unannounced

Simple friendly people and oh so many of us kids

Seemingly more boys than girls whose only ambition in life

Was to play!

 

The avenues were put to good use

by rickshaws pullers, cyclists, pedestrians

a few scooterists, motorcyclists and the rare car

Who took this short cut to the Civil Lines.

 

We however put it to greater use

  And played cricket, football, kings , seven tiles

And “gulli danda’’ as well

Oh, those endlessly long, fun filled afternoons

Where, caste, colour, creed or religion

Had no bearing.

The burning of the ‘holkar’, the playing of ‘Holi’

The Eid and Christmas celebrations

We enjoyed them all.

The avenue lights came on at dusk

Thinking back now – they were rather dim.

Many were covered by creepers

 that had crept up the long pole- they dimmed the lights at times

 

“I spy” rang out from various corners, in the late evening

And the shrieking and shouting continued till around nine

With us charging around in groups and having a blast

Before one knew it, it was eight or somewhere around that time

When the unwritten rule said- ‘get home’ for dinner.

Uncomplicated pastimes, kindred spirits, simple pleasures, great friendships

“Those were the days my friend”